Respecting Elders
Cambodians demonstrate great respect toward their elders. This respect for the elderly is taught very early in life. Always, the younger individual approaches the elderly first. In contrast to a younger host who would Som Pas a visiting elder first, a guest would Som Pas his or her elderly host upon entering the home. The younger person shouldn't be seated higher than an adult. The younger individual should be seated at the same level as the older person or slightly lower. It would be deemed impolite or misbehaving to sit above the seniors. Mats are still frequently used in many American and Cambodian houses, in addition to chairs or couches. It is rude for a younger person to sit on a chair, even if they are told to do so, if an older person is seated on a mat. The young people should bend their legs and tuck them to the side with both feet pointing backward when sitting on a mat. Younger folks shouldn't cross their legs while sitting on a chair or couch or shake their legs.
A younger person should bow to a senior when passing or strolling in front of them. The more reverence is expressed, the lower the bow is. The younger individual must use both hands to receive items from or give items to the elderly. An older person will do it using just one hand.
It is inappropriate to stroke or touch the elder's head. Cambodian parents usually teach their kids that it is wrong to touch or pat someone else's head since it is considered sinful. A younger person should never place their hand on the shoulder of an older person while standing or posing for a photo. It is seen as extremely impolite. Remove headgear before speaking, and keep your hands out of your pockets. Don't begin eating before the senior.
Even with all the changes, elder respect is still highly valued in Cambodia. On the other hand, in the United States, it appears that younger generations are losing regard for the elderly. Children interact with other Cambodians less frequently as a result of the busy work schedules of many parents. If Westerners show respect for Cambodia's seniors, they will be greatly appreciated and revered.
