Marriage Etiquette
Marriage has always been regarded as a significant event in families. It is usually expensive. Marriage used to be a way for families of similar social and financial statuses and religious beliefs to strengthen their bonds. Rather than the bride or groom, the family used to select the partner. When it is difficult to find a suitable partner among family members, a matchmaker can help. When a suitable girl was found, the matchmaker would notify the groom's family. After the groom's family agreed, the matchmaker would notify the bride's family. A date for a meeting is set after both families agree.
During the engagement period, the fiancée was not allowed to leave the house or meet anybody. The father of the groom would give his son's fiancée a sum of money to buy a wedding gift. The engagement period is not fixed; however, it usually lasts for one month. The wedding party is, usually, given in large public halls or in hotels. A party is given for just men to congratulate the groom and another separate party is given for women to sing and celebrate.
On the wedding night, the groom would walk from his house to his wife's, accompanied by his father, uncles, relatives, and neighbors. When he arrived at the bride's home, he would be greeted by songstresses. A "Jalwa" party for the bride was sometimes held in her family's home. The bride would wear a green gown and sit on a special seat in the "Jalwa." A green silk scarf would be draped over her. The bride would then be carried in her seat to the room where the groom is waiting.
