No Bad Kids
No Bad Kids will be one of the best parenting books you've read, and it reminds you of why you never read any in the past. You tend to admire Lansbury's advice, as well as the RIE methods she highlights (it seems similar to Montessori, which I try to follow). The more you read, the more you know that every toddler is different and that what works in one scenario might not be in another.
It is a timely reminder to stop using the royal you and third person when talking to your daughter or son. They are not a baby, and it does feel more connected to say "I would like to put that down" instead of "We don't play with that" with your child. In conclusion, No Bad Kids contains a lot of good tips about having a positive parent-child relationship with your toddler, including very helpful guidelines on communication and staying calm when engaging with the tiny tornado of poor impulse control living in your house. Imagine it will be helpful as you go forward.
Link to buy: www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Kids-Toddler-Discipline/dp/1499351119