Weddings

One of Malaysian culture, customs, and etiquette that you should know is Weddings. The majority of Malay weddings are spectacular, joyous celebrations with a large guest list. Ceremonies may be held over several days in traditional Malay weddings. The marriage is solemnized during the akad nikah (solemnization ceremony). The highlight of the wedding is the bersanding (sitting-in-state ceremony), which is followed by a feast for family and friends.

Bersanding is where the couple is seated next to each other on a sofa called the Pelamin. This is a mark of approval and blessing. Loved ones and guests offer their blessings by throwing a combination of bunga rampai (finely cut aromatic Pandan leaf, sprayed with perfume) liquid rice flour, and rose water over the couple – these are laid out on a tray. The guests who bless the couple are offered bunga telur, the symbol of fertility (at modern weddings these are usually scented soaps, sweets, or chocolates).